Let’s be real—change is hard.
Scratch that. Change can feel downright exhausting. Whether it’s creating new habits, breaking old ones, or trying to live in a way that feels more aligned with who you are—getting started (and staying consistent) can feel like a steep, uphill climb.
And you’re not alone.
Many of the women I work with are navigating shifts—physically, emotionally, and mentally. You might want more energy, less stress, better sleep, stronger muscles, or to feel less scattered and more grounded. But wanting something doesn’t always mean it’s easy to create. So let’s talk about why change is hard—and what you can do to make it easier.
1. Get Clear On Why You Want to Change
Before anything else, ask yourself:
Why do I want this change? And is it really my desire?
Sometimes we try to make changes based on what others expect of us—partners, family, doctors, or even what society says we “should” be doing. But lasting change rarely happens when it’s rooted in someone else’s agenda.
Take time to reflect.
→ Why does this change matter to you?
→ What would your life look like if you made this shift?
→ What’s the deeper reason behind it?
Your “why” becomes your anchor when things get tough.
2. Too Many Changes at Once
Maybe you’re trying to change your morning routine, your diet, your movement habits, and your screen time—all at the same time.
It’s too much.
Change requires energy and attention. And when you try to overhaul everything at once, it’s no wonder you feel overwhelmed or discouraged.
Quick win: Choose one small action. Just one.
Something so doable that it doesn’t feel like a chore. Build from there. Small steps create real momentum.
3. Fear of Failure
You might think: What if I mess up? What if I can’t keep going? What if I fail?
Here’s the truth: failure is part of the process. It’s not a sign to quit—it’s a sign you’re trying. Think about how babies learn to walk—they fall a lot. But they keep getting back up.
Try reframing failure as feedback. What can you learn? What would you do differently next time?
The only real failure is not starting at all.
4. Waiting for Motivation
Let’s be honest: you won’t always feel like doing the thing.
Motivation is unreliable. It’s fleeting.
What creates lasting change? Action.
You don’t have to feel motivated to take action—but taking action often creates motivation.
Try this: Count down “5–4–3–2–1” (from Mel Robbins’ 5-Second Rule), then start.
Just begin. Your future self will thank you.
5. Your Environment Isn’t Helping
You can want a change deeply—but if your environment doesn’t support it, you’ll be swimming upstream.
Think about:
- Your space: Is your environment making it easier or harder to follow through?
- Your people: Do those around you support and encourage you? Or do they subtly (or not-so-subtly) pull you back?
If your current circle isn’t supportive, find a new one. This might be a friend, a coach, a group, or even an online community.
Surround yourself with people who believe in your ability to change.
6. You Don’t Know Where to Start
Sometimes you want the change… but feel totally stuck on how.
Start by doing a little research. Read articles, listen to podcasts, talk to someone who’s done it. You don’t have to map out the whole journey—just the next small step.
And be willing to pivot. Progress isn’t linear.
7. Unrealistic Expectations
Change takes time. We live in a world of instant everything—fast food, fast results, fast answers. But your health, habits, and mindset? They’re not overnight transformations.
If you’re expecting quick results, check in with those expectations. Growth is often slower (and more powerful) than we realize.
8. That Inner Critic
You know the one:
“You’ve tried this before.”
“You’ll never stick with it.”
“You’re not disciplined enough.”
That voice? It’s not truth. It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe. But staying “safe” often means staying stuck.
Try asking your inner critic: → What are you trying to protect me from?
→ What if I succeed this time?
You don’t need to silence the inner critic—but you can choose not to follow its lead.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Broken—You’re Human
If you’ve struggled to make a change, it doesn’t mean you’re lazy or undisciplined. It means you’re human. Change is a process, not a personality trait.
Start small.
Stay curious.
Keep going.
What’s one small shift you’re working on right now? I’d love to hear—drop it in the comments below!
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