Let’s be real—change is hard.
Scratch that. Change can feel downright exhausting.
Whether it’s starting a new habit, letting go of an old one, or trying to live in a way that feels more like you again, getting started (and staying consistent) can feel like a steep climb.
And if you’ve ever felt that way, you’re in good company. Many of the women I work with are navigating a lot—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Maybe you want more energy, less stiffness, better sleep, or to simply feel steady and clear again.
Wanting something doesn’t make it easy to create it. So let’s talk about why change can feel so tough—and what actually helps.
1. Get Clear On Why You Want to Change
Before you start anything, pause and ask yourself:
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Why do I really want this change?
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Is it something I want—or something I feel I “should” do?
Lasting change almost never comes from what someone else thinks is best for us. It sticks when it’s rooted in your deeper why—what matters to you and how you want to feel in your life.
Your “why” becomes your anchor when things get tough.
2. You’re Trying to Change Too Much at Once
Sound familiar?
You’re reworking your mornings, changing how you eat, promising yourself to stretch more, get to bed earlier, and walk daily… all at once.
It’s too much.
Change takes energy and focus, and when we try to overhaul everything, we burn out fast.
✅ Try this instead: Choose one small action. Just one.
Something so doable it almost feels too easy. Small steps build real momentum.
3. Fear of "Messing Up"
We all have that little voice that whispers, “What if I can’t keep this up?”
But here’s the truth: missteps are part of the process.
Think of how babies learn to walk. They fall a lot—but that doesn’t mean they’re failing. They’re learning.
Change works the same way. Every stumble is feedback, not failure.
The only real failure is not starting at all.
4. Waiting for Motivation
Let’s be honest: you won’t always feel like doing the thing.
Motivation is unreliable. It’s fleeting.
What creates lasting change? Action.
You don’t have to feel motivated to take action—but taking action often creates motivation.
Try this: Count down “5–4–3–2–1” (from Mel Robbins’ 5-Second Rule), then start.
Just begin. Your future self will thank you.
5. Your Environment Isn’t Helping
You can want a change deeply—but if your environment doesn’t support it, you’ll be swimming upstream.
Think about:
- Your space: Is your environment making it easier or harder to follow through?
- Your people: Do those around you support and encourage you? Or do they subtly (or not-so-subtly) pull you back?
If your current circle isn’t supportive, find a new one. This might be a friend, a coach, a group, or even an online community.
Surround yourself with people who believe in your ability to change.
6. You Don’t Know Where to Start
Sometimes you want the change… but feel totally stuck on how.
Start by doing a little research. Read articles, listen to podcasts, talk to someone who’s done it. You don’t have to map out the whole journey—just the next small step.
And be willing to pivot. Progress isn’t linear.
7. Unrealistic Expectations
Change takes time. We live in a world of instant everything—fast food, fast results, fast answers. But your health, habits, and mindset? They’re not overnight transformations.
If you’re expecting quick results, check in with those expectations. Growth is often slower (and more powerful) than we realize.
8. That Inner Critic
You know the one:
“You’ve tried this before.”
“You’ll never stick with it.”
“You’re not disciplined enough.”
That voice? It’s not truth. It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe. But staying “safe” often means staying stuck.
Try asking your inner critic: → What are you trying to protect me from?
→ What if I succeed this time?
You don’t need to silence the inner critic—but you can choose not to follow its lead.
You’re Not Doing It Wrong — You’re Human
If change has felt hard, it’s not because you’re weak or lacking willpower. It’s because you’re human.
Change is a process. A skill. A practice.
Start small.
Stay curious. Keep going.
What’s one small shift you’re working on right now? I’d love to hear—drop it in the comments below!
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